OCD: Conditions for Allowing · Last updated: 9 September 2026
These are the terms for buying and using anything from OCD: Conditions for Allowing — the book, the Starter Kit, the Recovery Circle, the portal, the Allowing app, the AI tools inside both, and my coaching programmes. They're written to be read, not skimmed-and-regretted. The short version: I'll be straight with you, the guarantees below are real, and this work is coaching and education — not therapy or medical treatment.
1. Who you're dealing with
David Laing, a sole trader trading as OCD: Conditions for Allowing, Eastbourne, East Sussex, United Kingdom. Contact: david@conditionsforallowing.com. Postal address: Heathcote, Eastbourne BN21 1BZ, United Kingdom.
2. The most important term: this is not therapy
I'm not a therapist, psychologist, or doctor, and nothing I offer — the book, the courses, the tools, the community, the calls, the programmes — is therapy, medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. I teach from lived experience of OCD and complete recovery, and from the work I've done with clients since.
What that means in practice:
This work can sit alongside professional care. It is not a replacement for it.
Never change or stop medication because of anything in my materials without talking to whoever prescribed it.
If you're under the care of a mental health professional, you don't have to choose between us — and if I ever think you need support I can't provide, I'll say so plainly.
If you're in crisis, please don't wait for an email or a call with me. In the UK: Samaritans, free, 116 123 (any hour, any day) · NHS 111 (choose the mental health option) · 999 if you or someone else is in immediate danger. Outside the UK: your local emergency number or a local crisis line. Reaching for that kind of help is never a step backwards.
3. The app and the AI tools
Some of what I make is software, and parts of it talk back to you. Here is exactly what it is, because you should not have to guess.
The Allowing app is a companion to the book and the daily practice. It holds the bell, the daily sit, and a conversation you can open when an urge arrives. It is early software, in testing: it will have rough edges, and features can change or disappear between versions.
The tools in the portal — the mapping tools, the chat, and the guided parts dialogue — are the same kind of thing on a bigger screen. The parts dialogue can be spoken as well as typed.
The conversation is generated by a machine. It is a large language model following rules I wrote. It is not me. It is not a therapist, it does not know you, and it does not remember you between conversations except where the portal stores what you wrote. It can be wrong, and occasionally it will say something that does not fit. If it does, stop, and tell me.
Nobody is watching it live. I read what comes out of these tools, but not in real time and not always the same day. It is not a monitoring service and it is not a crisis line. If you need someone now, use the numbers in section 2.
What it does when safety comes up. If the conversation touches on your safety, the tool is built to stop the work it was doing and point you to real help. That is a safety net, not a guarantee — an automatic system can miss things and can also get it wrong in the other direction and stop a conversation that was fine.
It doesn't diagnose or treat anything. It doesn't measure you, score you, assess you, or tell you anything about medication. Section 2 applies to it in full and without exception.
If you speak to it: your audio is turned into text and then discarded. The text is kept. The privacy policy sets out who processes it on the way.
I can change, pause, or withdraw the app or any tool at any time, including switching one off if I think it isn't safe or isn't working. If you have paid for something that depends on it, section 6 is where you stand.
4. Age — this is for adults
You must be 18 or over to buy anything here, to hold a portal account, or to use the app or any of the AI tools. That is not a formality: these tools hold conversations about distress, unsupervised, and they were built for adults.
If you are a parent, guardian or carer of a young person with OCD, you are genuinely welcome here — but the account, the purchase and the data are yours, as the adult, and the tools are not for them to use. I don't knowingly collect information from anyone under 18. If that has happened, email me and I will delete it.
5. What you're buying
The Allowing app: free while it is in testing. You are not buying it and you are not signed up to anything by installing it. If that ever changes, the price and the terms will be on the screen before you pay, and nothing will start charging you by default.
The eBook — "OCD: Conditions for Allowing" (£4.99): a digital download.
The Starter Kit (£27): a digital course bundle with lifetime access via the portal.
The Allowing Session (£147): a single one-to-one coaching session with me (60 minutes, on Zoom), booked after I've read your request. Payment is taken when you book. If you go on to work with me further, the full £147 is credited toward that.
The Recovery Circle (£97/month): a monthly membership — weekly guided session, portal tools and courses, community. Cancel anytime; cancelling stops future payments and your access ends at the close of the period you've paid for.
The Implementation Programme (price as agreed on your call; 6 months): 1:1 coaching, group calls, daily support, full portal access. Programme specifics are confirmed in writing before you join.
Bespoke Recovery (£1,497): a made-for-you, finite programme — details on its offer page.
Prices are as shown at checkout. I can change prices for the future at any time; changes never touch what you've already bought, and membership price changes reach existing members only with advance notice.
6. Refunds and guarantees — the real terms
eBook and Starter Kit: because they're digital, you get access immediately. If it's not right for you, email me within 30 days and I'll refund you — no hoops.
The Allowing Toolkit: digital too, so access is immediate. 30-day money-back guarantee — go through all of it, and if it isn't right for you, one email within 30 days and I'll refund the £97 in full. And if you ever join the Implementation Programme, the whole £97 is credited against it.
The Allowing Session: move or cancel your session any time up to 24 hours before it starts, for a full refund or a new time — just email me. And if you do the session and honestly got nothing from it, tell me and I'll refund it. You also have the statutory 14-day cooling-off period from payment; booking a session inside those 14 days is your request for the service in that window, and your statutory rights are otherwise unaffected.
Recovery Circle:30-day money-back guarantee on your first month — if it's not for you, email me within 30 days of joining for a full refund. After that, cancel anytime as above.
Bespoke Recovery: start, and feel how it lands — your first payment is refundable within the first three weeks of starting. If it isn't right for you in those first weeks, email me and I'll refund that first payment in full: the whole £1,497 if you paid for the year, or your first quarterly payment if you split it. No form, no hoops, no questions about whether you "did the work."
Implementation Programme — the commitment guarantee: if you complete the 6-month programme and haven't reached the Definition of Success we agreed at the start, I continue working with you free until you have. One honest condition: the free continuation depends on you actually showing up — two missed 1:1 calls without a legitimate reason communicated in advance (illness, real emergencies, and family or work crises always get the benefit of the doubt) ends the free-continuation promise, though the programme itself still runs its full 6 months either way.
Nothing here reduces your statutory rights as a UK consumer — if the law gives you more than these terms do, the law wins.
7. Your account and access
One account, one person. Don't share logins or redistribute materials — this work funds itself through the people it serves.
Keep your login details safe; tell me if you think someone else has them.
I can suspend or close an account that's being abused (sharing paid content, scraping, harassment in the community) — with a refund of any unused paid period unless the abuse was serious.
8. The community and calls
Group spaces (the Skool community, group calls) work because they're safe. What others share there stays there. Repeating someone else's story outside the space is grounds for removal.
The weekly Recovery Circle session runs in Zoom Focus Mode — you only see me. Recordings of the weekly Recovery Circle session are for my own reference only and are never shared. On the Implementation Programme group call, only the short opening teaching segment is recorded; hot-seats never are.
Be human with each other. I reserve the right to remove anyone who makes the space unsafe, with a pro-rata refund of any unused period.
9. Intellectual property
Everything I sell — the book, courses, tools, scripts, recordings — is mine (or licensed to me) and protected by copyright. Your purchase gives you a personal, non-transferable licence to use it for your own recovery. It doesn't give you the right to copy, resell, share, teach from, or feed it to an AI training set. If you're a professional who wants to use the framework in your own practice, email me — that's a conversation, not a licence violation waiting to happen.
10. Honest limits on what I promise
I promise the guarantees in section 6, honest effort, and materials that say what I actually believe to be true. I don't promise outcomes. Recovery stories on my pages are real, but they're individual results, not a forecast of yours — everyone's history and pace are different. You're responsible for the decisions you make about your own life and health (see section 2).
11. Liability
Nothing in these terms excludes or limits liability for death or personal injury caused by negligence, for fraud, or for anything else the law says can't be excluded. Beyond that, my total liability to you in connection with any product or programme is limited to the amount you paid me for it. I'm not liable for losses that have nothing to do with what you bought (lost profits, lost data from your own systems, and so on), or for the acts of platforms I don't control (Zoom, Skool, WhatsApp, the app stores, and the companies named in the privacy policy that process what you type or say).
12. The boring-but-necessary
Governing law: England and Wales. If you're a consumer elsewhere in the UK or EU, you keep any mandatory protections of where you live, and you can bring proceedings in your local courts.
Changes: I can update these terms; significant changes get emailed to active customers and members before they take effect. The current version always lives at this address.
If one clause fails, the rest stand.
Questions first: if something's gone wrong, email me before anything else — almost everything is fixable in one honest exchange.
A note on what this is — and isn't
I'm not a therapist or doctor, and nothing here is therapy, medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. I teach from lived experience of OCD and complete recovery. This work can sit alongside professional care, but it isn't a replacement for it — and please don't change or stop any medication without talking to whoever prescribed it.
If you're in crisis right now, please don't wait for an email or a call with me. In the UK: call Samaritans free on 116 123 (any time, day or night), call NHS 111 and choose the mental health option, or dial 999 if you or someone else is in immediate danger. Outside the UK, contact your local emergency number or a crisis line where you are. Reaching for that kind of help is never a step backwards.